"Made direct amends to suck people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."
The Eighth Step suggest, “We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make
amends to them all”.
1. What methods did you take in the process to become
"We made direct amend to such people wherever possible,
except when to do so would injure them or others."
2. How do honesty and
humility help in working this step?
* Remember honesty without compassion is abusive.
3. What are the three primary concepts associated with
4. In what ways do we
continue to make amends to our Spouse, children, siblings, and parents?
5. Give an example of the exact nature of the wrong and the
concept associated with the amends. See
page 87. IWHW
Our recovery is also
a way of making amends to ourselves. We
treated ourselves horribly in our active addiction. The guilt and shame we felt each time we
harmed another human being took quite a toll on our self-respect. IWHW pg. 93.
The most important result of the Ninth Step will be found
within ourselves. This step teaches us a
great deal about humility, love and selflessness, and forgiveness. We begin to heal from our addiction and no
longer live with as many regrets.
We are starting to be
"transformed from the adolescence of addiction to the maturity of
6. Why is it necessary to rid ourselves of the residue of
our past beliefs?
Our literature infers that we make amends to ourselves.
7. In what ways do we make amends to ourselves?
The spiritual growth we get from making amends often depends
on how much we put into our spiritual preparation. We start by getting rid of any beliefs we
have that may be causing us to hesitate or might inhibit our ability to
approach our amends with humility, acceptance, and faith. FB pg. 87
8. What is hindering you from making amends, mental or
9. In what ways do you struggle with the principals of humility, surrender, and, compassion? If so, how?
10. What preparation does your heart need to have to make a
real (true) amends?
What feelings do you experience when practicing the
principle of love, forgiveness, and self-acceptance?